I know I’m not perfect. I know that’s okay. Regardless, when someone says something about me, I’ll secretly be upset. I get mad at myself for my bad habits or weird ways, criticizing myself for not being “better”. If you are anything like me, I’m sure you know what I’m talking about.
As humans, I think it’s a crumby feeling to find out we have flaws. By nature, we don’t like to admit we have imperfections. It’s hard to digress from that, to step out of ourselves and realize we aren’t perfect. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to in order to grow.
I think it’s worth remembering that humans are supposed to make mistakes. We’re supposed to have flaws. We’re supposed to be complex and unique. Being perfect is impossible. Even if it were possible, being someone without flaws or imperfections sounds boring! There may be people who we think are perfect, but even they are far from it. I accidentally came across a video of a girl named Essena O’Neill. She’s a former instagram celebrity, whom everyone thought was perfect. To everyone’s surprise, the video she posted was of her explaining how she was in fact not perfect. She had many flaws and many issues, just like any other person. The main idea she was getting at is that she’s human, and despite what the media may show, she is still like you and me.
Instead of criticizing ourselves when told of our flaws, it can be helpful to remember that everyone, even the seemingly perfect people, have flaws as well. We’re in good company.
We are also more than our flaws. As I mentioned earlier, we’re supposed to be complex. We can’t define ourselves by just a few flaws, because it’s unrealistic. We are by no means just that. There’s so many good things about ourselves that we must take into account as well.
So next time someone points something out about you, realize it’s okay. It doesn’t make you any less of a person, or under anyone else. Instead, embrace it, because it makes you human.
Remember, life is tough, but you’re tougher.